There are a lot of nightmares in this mothering business, this from “Paperback Writer”. And while you’re there, take note of her “thought for the month” at the side…
Lynn, our thoughts are with you.
I think one of the hardest mothering lessons I had to learn was that kids are who they are, from the very beginning. Nurture can only do so much, especially if nature has stacked the deck. Even if it hasn’t, we can’t make our kids become other than who they are(although we can moderate some things and try to instill appropriate values, etc.). This realization is sometimes scant comfort, though, in a culture that seems to stress the role of parents to the point where responsibility for all a child’s ills seem to devolve upon us. “Why my child?” and “What did we do wrong?” are questions I hear far too often from perfectly wonderful parents. All I can do is bless the stars that I haven’t had to deal with these problems, and offer my heartfelt condolences to those who do.
Many years ago, a mother with 8 children, said “I never judge a parent by their kids nor kids by their parents”. I’ve learned this is a pretty good philosophy.
my heart goes out to her.
on another subject, and apropos of O Jerusalem, you’ve seen this? Link courtesy of It’s All One Thing, writer Will Shetterly’s websitehttp://www.latimes.com/news/science/la-sci-siloam9aug09,0,5974214.story?coll=la-home-science